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STEPPING INTO THE ADULT WORLD  -Teen corner

Every individual steps from childhood into adolescence cherishing great hopes of the adult world that comes into sight. The transition seems to offer an end to parental dependence, a greater opportunity for personal development, and freedom of thought and action. One begins to feel that soon there will be no problems. It would be an easy task to pursue one’s goal in life. However, it is not long before one realizes that the only problems one is leaving behind are childhood problems. Just as adolescence ushers greater hopes of adult life that awaits every young person, it also brings with it new trials and tribulations.

Nature follows its own pattern. It is not as kind as one would like it to be.  The sudden spurt of growth is not uniform. The physical changes cause undue embarrassment. There are marked changes in the skin. Feelings and emotions also begin to be uncertain. While at one time the adolescent bubbles with over-confidence, on another occasion he may want to be as dependent as a child on his parents. There is an inner struggle to get over such personal conflicts, but often it ends up in frustration.

Parents appear to be no longer as kind as they once were. The circumstances may warrant a showdown with them on many occasions. At the same time, the need to become more responsible becomes urgent. The school and college curriculum demand greater attention. One begins to understand human frailties better through contacts with friends and others. The realities of adult life come to the forefront.

A closer look reveals that adult life is not as attractive as it appeared to be. For the first time, one is shocked to learn the truth about the double standards followed by adults. One comes face to face with the realities of corruption and nepotism, the problems of finding a job, and making a success of it. Money begins to play a greater role as one observes how adult activities revolve around it.

Many of the demands of society are contrary to those of nature. While nature prepares one to be independent, the needs of education for a vocation increase the dependence upon parents until one is self-sufficient to support oneself financially. While nature prepares one to desire sex, to marry, and to procreate, society places restraint upon normal fulfillment of these desires until one is emotionally prepared to shoulder the responsibilities of raising and supporting a family. One begins to realize that marriage is not the happy institution it should be. It entails many problems and sacrifices.

The period of adolescence that represents the transition from childhood into adult life is decidedly a trying period for all young people. While it offers many trials and tribulations, it prepares one to face adult life with confidence. To make this transitory phase of life easier to face, young people need to understand themselves, and the many factors that influence them during this vital phase of life.

Nature has its own way of preparing young people to step into the adult world. During adolescence, it unleashes a spring of hidden energy in each person. There is all round growth. Every portion of the body is stimulated into action with this new energy. The individual is enthusiastic to expand this energy to move on, to achieve greater things in life. This is nature’s way of encouraging an individual towards independence in adult life.

It also makes a person over-confident, conceited and sometimes rash, thus exposing one to hidden dangers. One needs to understand this specially because nature endows all young people with this hidden energy swiftly, but it does not incorporate emotional growth represented by experiences of adult life as rapidly. This necessitates some of the restraints society places upon young people.

How can a young teenager ensure a happy entry into the adult world? What does one need to do to live a successful life? Young teenager seeks answers to these questions. They need to understand that every stage of life has its own significance. There will be some benefits, but some short comings too. At every step one gains valuable experience. The trials of growing up, at times, may be very trying. However, one always overcomes them.

To avoid problems, young people need to listen, to observe, to evaluate and accept life as it is. Normally, people are afraid of changes and that explains their reluctance to accept new ideas easily. To ensure happiness, one needs to compromise with many things in life.

Habits of a person affect successful living. The foundations of many habits that last a lifetime are built in early childhood. There are many aspects of life and living to which one is exposed only during adolescence. One will do well to understand that making a habit is a simple process.  The thought impels one into action. Actions repeated again and again turn into habits. Whether these habits will take one towards success or failure depends on whether the initial thoughts were of success or defeat.

This takes young people to the crucial stage where they want to know what is right, and what is not. Many childhood beliefs may be conflicting with those one may come across in the adult world. This can lead to mental conflicts, doubts and frustrations. Many young people may doubt the rationale behind their own existence.

Today’s teenagers are more fortunate than ever before, parents and teachers are eager to learn about the needs of young teenagers. Immense knowledge and help is available to guide them to richer and more successful adult life. The best investment is one a person makes to build oneself. An investment made in knowledge and in pursuing proper goals, comes back with interest in adult life.